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Last night I discussed something interesting with my daughter Pernilla (13). Have you ever felt like you are having ghosts in the corners of your life? Normally you do notice them. You can be completely unaware of them, but then a certain situation triggers their action and they jump out, scare you and affect your behavior. Yes, I know there are no real ghosts, but this picture was born in our conversation and I like it.

You react in the situation in a different way than you wanted to. We discussed how we, both I and she, could react in a childish way that we afterwards were embarrassed over. We agreed on that if we could the see the repeating patterns that triggers the reaction and identify the ghost, that is describe them with words, part of the battle is won. You have to try to “step out of yourself” and look at your reaction, perhaps together with a friend. You are not to condemn yourself, but just look at what happened.

It is interesting how we could agree and understand things like this together by finding a common language to describe the concepts. It is also fascinating how adult and child can help each other to grow as individuals.